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Well congratulations, a nice 9 months to 16 years of stressful times, choices and changes ahead, whether planned or unplanned. But with a little preparation it will be all worth it in the end.

The most common symptoms

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  • Increase in discharge
    Increase in discharge

    Increase in discharge

  • Constipated or you feel the need to empty your bladder more often
    Constipated or you feel the need to empty your bladder more often

    Constipated or you feel the need to empty your bladder more often

  • Missed or lighter periods
    Missed or lighter periods

    Missed or lighter periods

Symptoms

Women -

  • The first signs of being pregnant is missed periods or very light periods with little bleeding.
  • During the first 12 weeks of pregnancy its common to feel tired, exhausted, emotional and upset.
  • Breasts may become larger and feel tender, as they might do before your period. They may also tingle, veins more visible and the nipples may darken and stand out.
  • Frequent need to empty your bladder,
  • Constipated more often,
  • Increased discharge from your privates, without any soreness or irritation,
  • A strange taste in your mouth which many women describe as metallic,
  • Cravings,
  • Loss of interest in tobacco, certain foods or drinks that you previously enjoyed
  • Heightened sense of smell.

Men

  • Couvade syndrome is a common condition where the father to be experiences shared symptoms with the mother to be such as - headaches, weight gain, nausea, insomnia and mood swings.
  • Money as the costs of prams, cots and clothes will mount up very quick.

The link below shows some more common symptoms that you may experience during pregnancy which range from backaches and headaches to stretch marks and swollen ankles

http://www.nhs.uk/Conditions/pregnancy-and-baby/pages/common-pregnancy-problems.aspx

What does a check-up/test involve?

So what happens if you think you maybe pregnant? Firstly talk to your parents! Secondly, contact your doctor or midwife as they will provide you with information on a variety of lifestyle factors that you might need to start thinking about and may need to change during your pregnancy, such as;

  • The vitamins or nutritional needs,
  • Your diet and food hygiene,
  • The effects of smoking, drinking and drug use.

They will also advise you to have screening tests to identify physical abnormalities or inherited disorders such as sickle cell.

You don’t have to have these tests but it is recommend to do so as the earlier they are identified the more options are available to you to get help

You will also discuss your personal health such as

  • Previous pregnancies,
  • Diabetes or
  • High blood pressure.
  • Possible inherited diseases and family history.

After this you will book your next antenatal appointments to ensure healthy development of the baby.

Treatment

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The morning after pill - Levonelle

  • Levonelle has to be taken within 72 hours (three days) of unprotected sex,
  • Works by preventing or delaying the release of an egg,
  • Effective at preventing pregnancy the sooner they are used after unprotected sex the better,
  • Can make you feel sick, dizzy or tired, or give you a headache, tender breasts or abdominal pain, 
  • Can make your periods irregular, earlier or later than usual and sometimes spotting or heavy bleeding
  • If you vomit within 2 hours of taking the pill, seek medical advice as you may need to take it gain

The morning after pill - Ellaone

  • EllaOne has to be taken within 120 hours (five days) of unprotected sex,
  • Works by preventing or delaying the release of an egg,
  • Effective at preventing pregnancy the sooner they are used after unprotected sex the better,
  • Can make you feel sick, dizzy or tired, or give you a headache, tender breasts or abdominal pain,
  • Can make your periods irregular, earlier or later than usual and sometimes spotting or heavy bleeding
  • If you vomit within 3 hours of taking the pill, seek medical advice as you may need to take it gain

The IUD -

  • Is inserted into your uterus, which may cause some discomfort and can be inserted up to five days after unprotected sex,
  • It can be left in to be used as your regular contraceptive method,
  • Although, it can make your periods longer, heavier or more painful,
  • Rare side effects include pain, infection or damage to the vagina
  • Or the IUD may come out

You should contact your local sexual health clinic if you experince any of the following;

  • Your next period is more than seven days late
  • Your period is shorter or lighter than usual
  • You have any sudden or unusual pain in your lower abdomen which could be a sign of ectopic pregnancy
  • You think you maybe pregnant or just need a some reassurance to ease the worries

 

If left untreated?

So your pregnant and you’ve been for a check up so what's next?

A decision needs to be made and you have a few options to chose from, abortion, adoption, fostering or raising it. At the end of the day its down to you, seek as much advice as you can, talk to friends and family and be honest with yourself.

Abortion – the earlier the better, if an abortion is carried out in the first 12 weeks ideally before 9 weeks where possible, the less chance there is of serious health risks and it will be easier and safer for you. Abortions are also confidential, NHS Funded and you have access to post abortion counselling. You can also go private for a cost.

There are a number of reasons to have an abortion:

  • There is a significant risk that the baby would be born with a serious physical or mental disability,
  • You are not ready to be a mother,
  • No labour pains or stresses,
  • Unplanned pregnancy halting your education or career
  • Financially can't cope

After 12 weeks in pregnancy the risks increase as the option of abortion becomes less of an option and a higher risk of;

  • Haemorrhage (excessive bleeding) – occurs in about 1 in every 1,000 abortions,
  • Damage to the cervix (the entrance of the womb) – occurs in no more than 10 in every 1,000 abortions,
  • Damage to the womb – occurs in up to 4 in every 1,000 abortions during surgical abortion,
  • You may have a slightly higher risk of premature birth after having an abortion,
  • Repeated abortions can cause damage to your cervix and increase the risk of late miscarriages and have trouble having kids in the future

After 24 weeks there are a number of rarer situations when an abortion may be carried out. These include:

  • If it's necessary to save the woman's life
  • To prevent grave permanent injury to the physical or mental health of the pregnant woman
  • If there is substantial risk that the child would be born with serious physical or mental disabilities

Adoption – There are a number of reasons why people choose to have an abortion, but it does have its disadvantages, here are some of things you will need to think about if you went down this route;

  • Halting your education, career or financially cant cope,
  • Some women are unable to terminate the pregnancy,
  • Placing a child for adoption with a loving family who can provide a safe and happy home can be a great comfort for a birth mother,
  • They have committed parents and a stable home and they have opportunities and resources that you may not have been able to provide for them at your stage in life,
  • Provide a family who cant have children with a child,

Disadvantages

  • You will have no say in how or where your baby is brought up,
  • Won’t be able to contact your baby once they have been adopted,
  • Is a legal process and you will have to cut all legal ties with your child,
  • Also half-brothers and sisters, grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins on that parent's side will then be legally unrelated to the child,

For more information on adoption click here: https://www.gov.uk/child-adoption/birth-parents-your-rights

Fostering - Means that your baby will be placed with a foster carer who will bring up your child alongside you and your local authority, but it does have its disadvantages, here are some of things you will need to think about if you went down this route;

  • It has no legal contract like adoption does,
  • In the future you may be able to take over the caring responsibilities of your child yourself and become a family,
  • Financial assistance may be given to support the foster parents,
  • The child has stability with one family and is not being places in several different homes,

Disadvantages -

  • Children may be unhappy away from their parents even though the situation at home may not have been very good,
  • If the foster home does not work out for the child or the parents they may be moved on to another home,
  • Other children form the foster home may be difficult with the new children
  • Foster children coming into the home could influence a previously sheltered child,
  • There may be deep attachment between the foster parent and foster children.
  • However, children often choose to return to their blood parents, which could be hurtful to the foster parents
  • Your local council can take a child into care without your permission using a care order

For more information on fosterinng click here: https://www.gov.uk/if-your-child-is-taken-into-care/overview

 

Raise it – raising a child can be difficult but also rewarding, here are some of things you will need to think about if you went down this route:

  • The cost – it can be very expensive to raise a child, some of the items you will need include a cot, a pram, clothing, baby monitor, high chair and bottles are just a few of the things you will need.
  • Transport – How will you get to the several health checks and injections needed in the first few months.
  • Time – you will need to learn how to balance your work commitments, education and being a parent as well as allowing yourself some much needed down time. It can be hard if you’re a single parent but not impossible just be prepared for the lack of sleep.
  • Impact – have you thought about the impact it could have on you and your family? Are you ready for a child? Can you give the child the best start in life? Would it not have been easier if you just to have used protection
  • Responsibility – You better get ready for change, you now have to work hard to give your new child the best start it can get. You will start to think differently and be more unselfish as its not just you anymore.
  • Noise – shouting, crying for attention, feeding time and changing clothes your baby will drive you crazy at times. Beware of teething babies!